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Online dating scams are full of lies and international dating has been sullied by romance scams. These online dating services are full of beautiful asian women, but they are after your money. China is the hotbed for scams and online scammers. We tell you how to avoid these pitfalls.
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Am i the only one who is totally and utterly scared shitless of going to a place like this? everywhere you look is misfortune and discomfort, people being forced to do shit they dont want to do for money, it's so distressing and what's more is as a foreigner with limited resources, what can you really do to help? god it's so frightening
I lived in Fredricton NB Canada for 4 years. There was a man in my neighbourhood that married a woman from the Philippines and was murdered . His 'wife' arranged the whole thing. Be careful out there .
Get them on skype. Never ever send money. Think, they got by before you came along. If you aren’t moving to China as serpentza and C-Milk did then find asian women through a dating site in your country and research with due diligence. They know how to photoshop.
If there's a trend I see in those comments, it's that most of the people having had success with these dating sites is from the 2010-2013 period. Have to consider the changes in the market and business model, i'd wager the success rate today is much lower. Just because it worked out for someone else, doesn't mean the times are still favourable for it working for you
Another site called Asia Charm is a scam too. In order to get any personal information of a Chinese lady one must purchase TOKENS to chat with them. The man must spend the equivalent of $500 worth of TOKENS to reach their PRE-SET amount that must be paid BEFORE they allow you to view their personal info. What is their personal info? Should be their cell phone and email address. Sounds simple right? NOPE! The lady that I was interested in NEVER had her cell phone listed in her personal info. And guess what? Her email address was one from the national Chinese QQ email. The Chinese government censors this private public email flat form on individuals private messages. Mine was flagged "inappropriate and sensitive" content when I only included my home address, my cell number, etc... asked her for same info. QQ email indicated that it did NOT deliver my emails that had any personal info of mine to her. Doing a search on the web reveled that the Chinese government does censor QQ emails and their content. So in the end I never got this lady's cell phone number, never got her address or alternative email either. Its a TOTAL SCAM, Asia Charm is a SCAM!
I trying a china dating site and met a few real beatififul women with nice body’s.. you got to be smart because they are real women mex in the site. You only pick girl who have visited you profile. The fakes will not not everyday too much work. And the real girls are looking at profiles. Then check if they chat a message or mail you, or even like you. Watch they will call you by name. Watch how real they massage is. Then you write to them. Ask for new few picture every day and about there life and who there family and friend. Mine who me here picture of a family visit and family picture and sites where. I can search if this is true of what she saying. Yes that town is famous for that and it’s just as that far as her profile tell where she lives. I am constantly tell her to show me she real. And she try hard to do it. The problem is the visa they can only come here as a tourist or school visa or business not love. Because if you lies and want a green card from the same destination later it will be denied because you lied . So I match my matches to the very young student who like me and tell them about the student exchange that the most visa program and allow 2 yr visa stay. All good but the site is too expensive. Left But are still in contact with 2
Holly Crap That's Bullshit with all the Photo Shop marketing BS , So many poor Bastards I have seen invest up to 30-K before he found out is was a sham. This was the Ukraine specifically , Not China. Id assume it's the same thing everywhere basically... Just more so these locations
Yeah there are really desperated germans here^^ There is even a show in the tv were they get wifes from east europe or asia (mostly thai). German man have average money that are not average in this countrys so they have at least this advantage and they are not attractiv here.
I must say, I love your bikes. I have some experience from online dating, but no one have ever asked me for money and I would never send money to a stranger that I've never met. I'm happily married to a Chinese woman, that I actually met online. It was her cousin that put out a personal add for her and I met the cousin before I went to China to meet with the woman that later became my wife.
And a last thing.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
I did this... Worked out great... We both could not be happier.... Have a new baby... Life is good...
She didn't ask for any money .. I did not offer....she did not come on too strong.. "I love you " bullshit... I did not either...
Treat it more like a business arrangement... Work out what is in it for both of you.. Long term
Ask about goals and ambitions... Yes skype... Jump on a plane go over for a look...yep avoid the Barbie looking ones..
Even if they are real show ponies are expensive to keep...and if you are fat bald and ugly with the personality of an oyster with bad hygiene do not expect a perfect woman to fall in love with you...
I met my wife on "My Foreign Bride. Com. Married 13 years. Not all sites are scams. I paid $49.95 for 1 year. Shut account down after 2 weeks due to too many responses. I was 51 at the time and most were hotties under 25. I married at 52 and my wife was 26. All thanks to the dating site. Things may have changed now, though
you need to make multiple visits to her country or live there for an extended time while working. a lot of it is fake but a lot is not. there are many more that are looking for love just like these guys. online dating in usa is full of scams too and fake profiles too or any other country. comes with the territory. just be careful.
I’m planning on visiting China sometime next year and I thought it would be cool to have a few locals to meet up with when I get there. Is there a legit way to meet friends online? I’m not looking for a love connection just like minded people to hang out with while I’m in the country.
.. I found a beautiful Chinese Christian girl on a Chinese dating site .. She fell totally in love with me but I broke her heart .. I thought about going for it for awhile, but changed my mind at the last minute in favor of a Filippina girl who is my angel and love of my life who I also met online
In some of those Before pictures, the woman is quite hot, but the after picture has them looking so different. And I'm noticing that the shape of noses and such are being shifted to look like a specific race. Maybe Chinese? And shifted away from looking Thai or some other race. So I definitely see some internalized racism at play here.
If something seems too good, it's likely that. If you are an old man in late 50 and being contacted by someone who looks like a supermodel, is 21 years old, has a university education as a doctor, it is certainly not true anything she writes.
Either she want money for tickets / doctors etc etc or so it's the dating page that wants you to pay for each letter you write to her and every letter you want to read.
If you find a woman take a vacation and meet her in person
It always Amazing me how a guy cant seem to know he should always talk with a girl on Skype if your interested in her. If i dont see her in Video chat within the first 2 or 3 chats, im done with that girl;, its just common sence
This makes me sad, truthfully, I think I was cat fished for a long time. I figured my little relationship was likely a man with some nice pictures. Of coarse she needed to pay her rent and her mother got sick and needed medical...
It's over, but it left me embarrassed.
My experience was the complete opposite. I had done a lot of online dating in Canada, before logging on to an Asian dating site. At the time, the site said you must pay in order to write messages, but you didn't actually have to. (Bugs in their HTML!)
I corresponded with a dozen Chinese women. None of them asked for money. The ones I video-chatted with, looked like their profile pictures. I eventually decided I was "up for an adventure," so I travelled to China to meet the woman who is now my wife. However, before I left, I had a Plan B and a Plan C.
One thing I noticed was a statistically unlikely number of women from Nanning. Perhaps that indicates scammers. Oddly, my wife has visited Nanning, which is nowhere close to where she lived.
Good video and valuable advice. Also like the drone views from above while you guys are riding. Only thing I don't like is when you pull around and place yourself in front of a car already stopped at a traffic light.
Dude, 50% of White guys who date Asian girls don't even respect Asian men, and won't even make an effort to make Asian male friends. This is coming from a guy with experience with other expats and Chinese people, while living in China. Half of your audience is made up of losers and you should be aware of it.
This is not my experience.
I've dated several girls in China from online dating websites, and ALL of them have been genuine good people. And while the relationships didn't really last (2 were for a year each), none of them asked for money or any other kind of kickback. They were just like me. Looking for someone, sick of looking in bars, and tired of waiting for that person to just magically appear in the course of life.
Having said that, my current GF just magically appear in the course of life... haha
PS - I'm still good friends with girls that I met though online dating. We realized that we weren't "right"for each other in a relationship sense, but could be friends. And I'm glad to have them as friends.
I think people half false expectations with the woman they want with being picture perfect etc and over look the real qualities, I want to meet a chinese woman but am more looking for compatibility , things in common, mutual attraction , goals and someone who is wanting a relationship not a wallet.
Asian.Date is a scam believe me. They are using fake IDs of previous ladies. They will not give direct answers to questions put,do not answer emails to them. It is easy to catch them out if you do a check for their genuine ID by telling the girl to use Facebook if you can not get their personal information from them on Asian Date because they are being paid by the agency to keep the clients paying especially on their live chat feature. To open letters, to send letters all at ten credits each after you have spent $15.99USD for twenty credits which is their minimum charge. Do not be taken in by them just to cheat you so they can make as money as possible by stringing you along by their deception. The girl did not come back to you when Facebook was indicated to them so you could deal with them on a one to one basis. SO BE WARNED !
I wouldn't say that all "Asian" dating sites are scams. There are some Filipina centered sites that are fine. You still need to use caution. If the site charges per message, instead of a flat monthly or yearly rate, it's more likely scam.
I've seen many of your videos on all three channels about dating Chinese girls, and they just make me realize that girls from The Philippines are a safer option for most Americans. Both of you lucked out with your current relationships, but there are still issues with Chinese culture that are very different when compared with a Filipina.
1. English is one of the two official languages of The Philippines, and it was a Spanish or American possession until 1945. The American cultural influences are noticeable. While you should probably learn Filipino or her local native language, like Cebuano/Bisaya, you can function very well with just English. Local TV programs, like news and soap operas are in Filipino/Tagalog, but the cable TV offers a wide variety of English programming with many of the movie and expanded basic channels from America.
English is taught from elementary school through high school, and all higher education is taught in English. Her family will all speak English unless they are very poor and uneducated. They may not be 100% comfortable, or grammatically correct in English, but most Filipinos are functionally fluent. They may tell you that "English makes their nose bleed", to indicate some discomfort versus speaking their native language, but they can still understand you.
2. It is also quite common for several female relatives to be married to Westerners, so no girl gets alienated from her family for being in an interracial relationship. Her family will often welcome you with open arms.
3. Many Filipinos/Filipinas take jobs overseas, so the idea of living outside their home country is part of the culture.
4. Money - Here is a potential problem area. Since you are a rich American, Canadian, Australian, etc., you will be expected to pay, not just for dates and trips with your girlfriend, but also for the whole family in many cases. Unlike Chinese people, Filipinos are not frugal, or great with money. Don't expect your Filipina wife to save money for a rainy day.
5. A Filipina is almost never going to consider divorce. First, divorce is not available or recognized in The Philippines. The wealthy can get annulments, but they are difficult and costly to obtain. If you marry your wife in her own country, she may never be able to marry anyone else, even if you divorce her in the US. Her government will consider you her only valid husband. Filipinas also have a very romantic attitude towards marriage. While the marriage may seem a bit transactional in many cases, a Filipina wants love, romance and faithfulness. If you treat her well, and show her affection, she will love you.
6. Religion - This can also be a double edged sword. Over 80% of the Philippines is Catholic. The rest are Iglesia ni Cristo (local sect), Seventh Day Adventist, LDS/Mormon, Buddhist, Taoist, Muslim or some type of Born Again Christianity. There are very few Atheists, Agnostics or non-religious Filipinas.
7. Skin tone - If this matters to you, many Filipinas, especially those from the middle and southern islands, tend to have darker skin. They come in all shades, and some are even ethnically Chinese. While the stores carry skin lightening products, many Filipinas are brown and proud, seeking a "sun-kissed look" during their Summer. The area around Manila has more of a hang-up about light skin, since they have higher Chinoy (Chinese Filipino) and Eurasian (biracial) local populations.
I have seen both cultures. My step-mother was from Taiwan, and my brother is half Chinese. I also had a Filipina GF/fiancée for many years that I met on a dating site. Her pictures were never doctored, and I did video chat with her before traveling to meet her. Scammers are everywhere, but it's easy for me to spot them. Google images, and the ability to distinguish professional photos from camera phone shots is essential. A Filipina can easily have some professional photo spreads, but she should also have regular amateur pics as well on her social media.
Some scammers are really bad at the game, and tip their hands within minutes. Any girl who asks for money in the first few chats should be dumped immediately. I've run into scammers who couldn't wait five minutes before launching into some sob story on why they need some money. Almost none of them can work the long con.
I'm not saying you can't get scammed by a Filipina, but a little common sense goes a long way. I met a guy in Dipolog who was there for a 17yo girl he had met on-line. He was a 71yo American. The legal age to marry in the country is 18yo. Anyway, he had bought numerous gifts for her and her family, including a flat screen TV. After she started ghosting him, he tried to go back to her house to retrieve his gifts, with zero success. Culturally, there is no dowry or bride price in The Philippines, so no one should need to "seal the deal" with expensive gifts.
Each Asian woman is different and unique, but the Filipino culture is the least "alien" for a Westerner, especially Americans and Canadians. Some dating sites have a high percentage of real girls. After a few basic messages, ask her to friend you on Facebook. Video chat with her on Skype or FB Messenger before you ever buy a plane ticket. Think really hard before ever agreeing to send her money. If you do send gifts or money, keep it small and affordable. Any girl who needs lots of money or expensive gifts, before you have even met in person, is not looking for a real, romantic relationship. Don't bring an engagement ring on your first visit! If you decide to marry the girl, there will be plenty of time later while your waiting for her Fiancée visa, or when you go back for the wedding on a future trip.
I actually DID meet my Chinese wife on a dating site - but it wasn't an "Asian" dating site. It was just OK cupid. We lived near each other, went to school in the same system, so we ended up dating. Same with my ex, also Chinese - only, she asked ME out and initiated conversations, if you can believe it (and I am not lying when I say my ex was gorgeous - not that my wife isn't cute and pretty but I'd be lying if I said my ex wasn't prettier - horrible thing to say I know but it IS true, objectively - my ex was even sought after by MANY Chinese guys - which is how you know she's "China pretty" as opposed to "Western pretty") -
I WAS initially very nervous that they'd be nothing like their photos because, I'll be honest, I'd dated some western girls before them - not really dated actually so much as met with - and this happened a lot with western girls - they looked NOTHING like their photo - usually they were a lot fatter in person, for starters. They'd use clever angles to make their face look smaller and all.
Ironically, the two Chinese girls I dated (one of which I married) were, unlike the western girls, very straightforward with their photos. Maybe I got lucky. The woman I met when I met my ex was just as pretty as in the photos, and same with my wife - to a degree. My wife was a little "thicker" I'll say, when I first saw her topless, than I expected (she fluctuates in weight and with it, she varies from quite beautiful to a bit chubby...I'll be 100% honest - she looks good when she loses weight) - but I wasn't shocked or anything when I met them.
But as I said, I met them on a more standard dating site than the Asian-only ones. I figured out long ago that those ones were full of crap. First of all, you don't want the girls who are only looking for you based on your race. It's not a good sign, generally. We're all allowed our preferences - I prefer women with dark hair and eyes so I've only ever dated latino girls and asian girls - so I get that - but if it's LITERALLY the only reason they want to date you? Run. You will usually be a meal ticket for girls like that OR you will be an experiment - they will leave you when they grow bored with you.
Dating Chinese girls in any case is never going to be an easy thing if you are looking for marriage and happiness. First, you'll have to figure out which of them are using you, which of them want you only to make mixed-race babies and not for who you are as a person, which of them are making an experiment out of you because they've never dated a foreigner and you're exotic to them, etc.
THEN you have to get past the first year. That's when all the cultural difference and life expectations will come out and play. Chinese women, I will say, are some of the most materialistic (not ALL, but a lot of them) people I have ever met. My wife is no exception. Nor was my ex. BOTH of them think it's perfectly reasonable to expect me to make over $100,000 a year and be able to buy them a house in a really expensive area. Same is true with many women in China. My wife is actually one of the more reasonable ones.
THEN you will have to pass the "meeting the parents" test. Good luck. They will interrogate you. I was lucky - my mother-in-law is single as my wife's father passed when she was young - so I only faced ONE parent in her case. With a mother AND a father I might have twice as much work cut out for me. My mother-in-law ACTUALLY brought in a translator - since she doesnt speak English at all - because she wanted to make sure the answers we gave her in Chinese lined up with what we were saying to each other in English during this interrogation. I am not kidding. I got the whole "how will you support my daughter", "what are your plans", etc thing.
THEN you have to propose and hope the ring is good enough.
THEN you have to get past the usual part where people get cold feet and there's tension in planning the wedding and so on- nearly had my wife break up on me the day before our wedding.
THEN you have to deal with the constant "zao sheng gui zi" (have a child early) comments and questions from the in-laws. My mother-in-law will not relent until she gets grandchildren.
If you've passed all those hurdles and somehow the parents allowed you to marry their daughter, congratulations - you are now part of a Chinese family and the expectations will never get lower. You'll never be good enough for their daughter. THAT is life marrying a Chinese girl.
Meanwhile in America, people date, propose, get married with no parental permission, and it is often much more straightforward and easy, and most women in America don't expect you to earn 6 figures to be "good enough" for them.
I'm not trying to scare anyone off of it or make it sound like dating Chinese girls is bad or you shouldn't do it - and I don't intend to make Chinese people look bad in any way. My only intent here is to make sure people know what they are ACTUALLY in for.
(Also, if you want to date a Chinese girl because you think they're subservient and so on....yeah, good luck with that one, buddy. The Chinese women I've dated - and the one I married - are the LEAST subservient and some of the most hot-tempered women I've ever met - it is NOT going to be like you think it is, trust me - so don't even start thinking you can get yourself a Chinese girl and they'll just fall in step behind you and do as they are told. Please. Get an Asian woman mad and see how subservient she is.)
I met my wife on a Chinese dating site, traveled to Wuhan several times to spend time with her. We are happily married and living in Florida and have a 4 month old daughter. A lot of what you say is true, but if you are smart about it you can still be successful in finding a relationship this way.
yeah , been there done that . Was looking on several websites. Thought I found one . Communicated with her for about a year .
None of the usual red flags popped up. Went to her country to meet her - POP , POP , POP , POP
Once I actually got there , OMG ! That's when she started hitting me with all the BS sob stories and why she needed money.
well hell : (
that was it for me. Too much time effort and money went into this venture. Closed all accounts and just gave up basically.
if there is a woman for me , she'll have to find me ! No more active searching for me ,
the costs ( financially and emotionally ) are just too much for me.
I do love the docos where they send people to Nigeria to confront the scammers but at the end of the day we believe what we want to believe. Ask anyone who has worked for an NGO in Cambodia or another mega-corrupt country how much of your donation ends up helping the people who really need it. Doesn't mean charities don't need money to help people, but the scum siphoning aid for their offshore accounts have a special place waiting in hell AFAIC.
I could've added some stories to this video. The only online dating scam I've ever fallen for is homos impersonating girls and getting me to show them my genitals. I'm ashamed to say I've fallen for this scam multiple times.
Why would you travel to the opposite side of the Earth to find a mate? If you live in or near a large city there is an abundance of easily accessible options. Have some self-respect, or at least find a gold-digger locally.
Most of this people claiming to be military on dating sites are scammers. You find them on every dating sites , also on instagram. I was involved in a romance scam that I lost a lot of money to the tune $500,000 . I advice you to always insist to see your alleged lover before any financial commitment. If you have lost money to this heartless con artists you can contact [email protected] They recovered about 80% of my funds traced to the con artist that scammed me. Thank me later.
With Baby Boomers becoming grandparents, the stodgy old codger and plump, cookie-baking white frizzy haired grandparents are getting a massive facelift. Tired of the old standbys of Granny, Grandma, Grandpa etc. todays grandparents are coming up with new names in droves!
send us your grandmother and grandfather names at norah at namenerds.com! Put the word "grandma" in the subject line.
The most common names for grandparents (at least in the USA):
Bubbe, Nana, Grandma, Granny, Gran, Gram, Grammy, Papa, Grandpa, Granda, Granddad, Gramps.
I always called my grandma AAAH ! because I could not say ABUELA (Were Spanish) My Grandpa was PAAAAAH ! I Guess I couldnt say PAPA. It just stuck.
Abi-Gabi - All the grandkids in my exs family used that name for their grandmother. The name came from baby talk by one of the cousins.
Aito: My grandkids call me Aito (Ah-ee-toh). It is short for "Abuelito" which is a diminutive for "Abuelo" which is grandfather in Spanish.
All Right Lou -- When my husband was a very small boy, he was always greeted by his jazz-playing grandfather with a "Gimme Five. [high five]. All Riiiight!" -- Thus, he soon became All Right Lou.
Alvin and Butter-butt : My daughters started calling my father Alvin because they thought he had puffy cheeks like Alvin the singing chipmunk. They call my mother butter-butt because while they were camping, she backed into a trash basket and got a butter wrapper stuck on her butt.
Ami: I called my mothers mother Ami, pronounced as in the French "mon amis", I dont know what it came from.
Recently we had our first son, and my in-laws wanted to know what they should be called. My ingenous 11 year old sister-in-law came up with the names "Amma" - for the Grandmother and "Adda" for the Grandfather. She derived the names from lord of the rings when one of the Elves were talking. I really happen to like the names, i beats calling them Grandma or Grandpa ( insert last name).